> i.am.a.goodgirl
> i.am.a.goodgirl
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> I still remember reading somewhere about a husband who had to borrow eggs that his wife bought. Sampai begitu sekali berkira.
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> Perkahwinan sepatutnya menjadi medan berlumba-lumba untuk memberi, bukan sekadar menuntut hak. Bila kurang ihsan, rasa macam transaksi dah.
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> May Allah guide our hearts.
I remember reading that telur one also! And what's worse, he became sad, yet complied with her request, then she still got angry with him. It made no sense at all.
In real life, I have a friend whose ex-wife literally kept an accounts book of everything that he gave/did not give her. She even accounted for 'monthly rollovers' (in case tak cukup), and chose which items counted as nafkah and which didn't. It was the most transactional relationship I had ever seen.
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> i.am.a.goodgirl
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> Woah, sampai macam tu sekali. This is no longer a marriage, it sounds more like a company with an auditor keeping track of every transaction.
>
> Hak memang perlu ditunaikan, but when everything becomes too transactional, sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah slowly start to disappear.
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> May Allah protect us from becoming too focused on what we’re owed that we forget the beauty of giving.
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> I still remember reading somewhere about a husband who had to borrow eggs that his wife bought. Sampai begitu sekali berkira.
>
> Perkahwinan sepatutnya menjadi medan berlumba-lumba untuk memberi, bukan sekadar menuntut hak. Bila kurang ihsan, rasa macam transaksi dah.
>
> May Allah guide our hearts.
I remember reading that telur one also! And what's worse, he became sad, yet complied with her request, then she still got angry with him. It made no sense at all.
In real life, I have a friend whose ex-wife literally kept an accounts book of everything that he gave/did not give her. She even accounted for 'monthly rollovers' (in case tak cukup), and chose which items counted as nafkah and which didn't. It was the most transactional relationship I had ever seen.
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> i.am.a.goodgirl
>
> Woah, sampai macam tu sekali. This is no longer a marriage, it sounds more like a company with an auditor keeping track of every transaction.
>
> Hak memang perlu ditunaikan, but when everything becomes too transactional, sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah slowly start to disappear.
>
> May Allah protect us from becoming too focused on what we’re owed that we forget the beauty of giving.